I am honored that Irene Becker has allowed me to share her powerful guest post. There is an important message here – a vision of what can be, a sobering description of our challenges, and a Call to Action. Although this is a longer post, I urge you to take the time to read it carefully and to consider the implications for yourself personally and for our communities.
The challenges we face too often inure us to the technological, scientific and communication wonders before us. Rising to the challenge of 21st Century Leadership starts with recognizing our ability to do GOOD by building GOOD leadership, GOOD business, GOOD communities, GOOD families, GOOD lives.
It means taking the road less travelled by finding new ways to move past the cloud of negativity, fear, complacency or reactivity that surrounds us.
Problems, physical maladies that were death sentences are being turned around. What was once considered impossible is realized every day. Communication, our ability to learn, share knowledge and innovate has never been greater. Our potential to LEAD FORWARD has never been greater; but it is obscured by a primal tendency, a human default pattern of being drawn to what is not, rather than looking at what is and what CAN be.
Our brains are automatically set to be attracted to the negative, a vestige of days when survival meant being on the lookout for predators at every turn. The ability to make the shift and reset default patterns of thinking and doing that no longer serve is real, it is doable. We can retrain our brains, but doing so demands a focus on what can be and a desire to optimize our greatest potential.
Technology cannot not save us from ourselves. The greatest danger we face is internal; it lurks within our minds, it lurks within the epicenter of corporate culture, in lurks within the smallest to greatest of organizations. It lurks within families and communities, towns, villages and cities. It is here and it is real. Fear and negativity resonate with our most primal of instincts, we are all innately drawn to both, they can captivate us, they can blind us to the truth of what is.
We stand at a fork in the road, a place where we face either the greatest Renaissance humans have ever known or a descent into decline, chaos and destruction. I believe in our ability to do better, not simply work harder. I believe in the hearts and minds of the changemakers, the courageous among us who will stand up to the challenge before us. I believe in our power to make a difference and to be the difference.
It is time to embrace our potential by learning to see problems as the conduit to solutions and by developing the three “Q Skills” that can take us forward: whole-brain thinking (IQ), emotional intelligence (EQ), and spiritual connection (SQ).
Fighting amongst ourselves, when we need to rally together and focus on what truly counts. is an expression of the fear before us and within us. Complacency and reactivity are the Molotov cocktail of destruction. Fighting about what is wrong, rather than looking at what is right will lead us nowhere. Burying the universal values that we know in our hearts and minds are the apex of sustainability will take us on a path of implosion. What does not create value for others will ultimately crash and burn. Ego, need and greed have systematically destroyed every empire and fiefdom in recorded history.
In another century, at a time of great chaos and crisis, Betsy Ross told Thomas Jefferson that times of great challenge demand great leadership. Today, the call to lead greatly speaks to us all. Some of us will lead our lives, others families, communities, businesses or large corporations.
WE ALL need to lead forward or give up our power. Lead forward or face a clear and present danger that will lead us to destruction. The values that sustain life, prosperity and goodwill must not only be spoken, they must be reflected in our smallest and greatest actions.
It is time to rise to the challenge of great leadership. Leadership that empowers people to learn new skills, new ways of dealing with and using change. Leadership that creates value for others, that contributes to better communities, better organizations and a better world.
The reality of a volatile world, workplace and marketplace can blind us to our power to LEAD forward. Whether we are afraid of the economic, geo-political or eco challenges we face, or simply the insidious erosion of job security, family life, quality of life and relationships, fear is around us and it is growing. Can we lead from fear? Can we lead from discouragement? Can we lead from a place of complacency or hopelessness? Will we be blinded to what CAN BE because we can only see WHAT IS?
Leading forward is the greatest and most important individual and collective challenge we face – a challenge worth our greatest effort. When we have the courage to lead with our strengths and the courage to transform the challenges we face into a catalyst for our true potential, we become not only change agents, but change leaders. And whether we are leading our own life, our family, our community, a small business or large enterprise what we do counts because the imperative is to lead forward and to help others do the same. Every time we LEAD forward, we inspire others to lead.
Leadership is not simply learned; it is lived. It is acquired and honed at the front lines of battle. Today, no matter who we are, we face a battle. We can choose to do as we have always done, or we can choose to develop a new mind set and skill set that takes us forward.
Great leaders have always recognized and developed their intellectual capital, emotional and spiritual capital, because they recognized that being just smart was not enough, being just heart centered was not enough, and being just values driven was not enough. Leadership demands all three. Developing these three “Q skills,” developing a new relationship with changes, challenges and with our potential is critical to our individual and collective future.
The only security we have lies in our ability to tie a knot around the courage, faith, hope, humanity and integrity that helps us LEAD forward. I resonated profoundly with the Open Letter by Howard Schultz, CEO of Starbucks, where he talks about the importance of being indivisible. Our values and our determination to build and co-create good lives, good business, good leadership, good communities must resonate in our hearts and minds and must be indivisible.
That spark of indivisibility is the soul of leadership, and it calls to us all. Take this moment to think of what YOU DO HAVE and what YOU truly want. Ask yourself whether you will let the challenges before you erode your true power, your ability to make a positive difference. Ask yourself what living a purposeful life means to you and for you. Think about the opportunities before us individually and collectively to do good, to be good, and to share good. Think about what it means to fail forward and learn from your mistakes with agility, and to live in alignment with values that are fundamental to social and economic sustainability.
Independence can found in a new form of interdependence or collaboration where we build communities of purpose that are championed by change-makers and leaders who are dedicated to building a better present and future. Idealistic? Altruistic? Yes, both. I believe in the possibility of doing better, not only working harder, and that together we can evolve, grow and LEAD forward as one people sharing one planet.
I believe that the change-makers amongst us are the leaders of the future; ombudsmen and ombudswomen who model what CAN BE and who inspire others to aspire to a better future where we can each contribute. A future where our intellectual, emotional and spiritual capital evolves and grows. A future where business for the good, leadership for the good, and communities for the good become not only what we aspire to but what we create.
About Irene Becker
First woman CEO of a steel company in Canada, Irene Becker has a track record of trailblazing accomplishments in business and in the community at large. An insightful and inspiring executive coach, mentor, speaker and writer, Irene helps clients achieve breakthrough results in their communication, leadership and lives. Passionate about the integrity of her work and its ability to help changemakers LEAD change, Irene helps smart people and organizations develop 3Q Leadership™ and effective verbal, written and social communication that builds reach, resonance and results.
For more information on Irene and the services she offers, visit her web site Just Coach It – | The 3Q Edge™ . Follow her on Twitter @justcoachit. Watch this extraordinary video interview of Irene Becker, where she shares her personal story of great achievements and losses.
Wonderful article, thank you for sharing.
Thank you so much, Robin. I am so delighted you enjoyed the post.
Great post, Irene.
I believe in the possibility of the extraordinary when we are able learn from the past, live fully in the present, and courageously lead forward, to coin your phrase – aligning our talents, values, and vision toward collective goals that benefit us all. Like you, I believe in the power of collaboration and the notion that in giving and sharing – our time, our talents, our information, our hearts, and our most authentic selves – we all win. We win, not in spite of the challenges along the way, but in the way we learn to lead through the challenges, inevitable losses and heartaches of life, perhaps inspiring others to do the same by the example we set in our own lives.
Thank you for sharing the wisdom of your experience, insights and leadership with us all. You are a blessing to this leadership community!
Hi Sharon: Thank you SO much for your comments, Sharon, and for your warm welcome!I was touched and honored by your words.
The time to LEAD forward is now, and doing so is critical! Doing so demands courage and it also means that we have to change the way we look at problems, and learn new ways of moving forward towards our true potential.
I wrote the article from my head and heart, because seeing fear, complacency or reactivity abound saddens me. Yes, we can lead forward and our ability to make the shift must be addressed and embraced.
Here are two posts I think you will enjoy. One is my story Against All Odds http://bit.ly/NCjru4 and Lead Forward http://bit.ly/JjN7Vk
Again, thank you for your comments. And, in the spirit of Community of Purpose and of leadership in action, it would be terrific to connect. My email is firstname.lastname@example.org
This is also my battle cry, by empowering others we empower ourselves. In my faith our gifts are simply given to us to use to love others. Money matters, yes, its a tool, but more than that people matter. People were created for fellowship, for companionship, for community. Television, the internet, technology are all excellent tools for spreading whatever message the sender chooses…let us join together in sending for the message that each of us matter, our youngest and our young at heart. Our wounded, our weak, our strongest, our hearts and minds matter…
PS. I so want permission to repost this in several appropriate places!
Sweetie: Thank you so much! I could not agree more with yoru comments. And, I feel that we are at a critical juncture where rallying our courage and focusing on a message that unites us all in what is critical, must be a priority.
Please contact me at email@example.com to discuss reposts. Look forward to hearing from you very much.
Again, sincerest thanks,
Another excellent post Irene. I know that our minds can be trained. We actually program them to solve the questions we ask. Ask a bad question… you get a really good answer. Why does this always happen to me? Oh… this always happens to you? Okay… you got it!
This concept goes far beyond positive thinking, but into the realm of thinking positively that there is nothing you can’t do, and that everything happens as it should. Life is the best coach there is.
Lead forward is like leaning into it. Lean into life and keep it going where you want it to take you. When you see a fork in the road, pick it up. Keep moving.
Thank you for the inspiration to get me going through my week!
Karlene: Thank you so much for your very kind comments and important reflections. Delighted that my post inspired you, and your comments also inspired me!
YES! Gosh,you are SO right-leading forward is like leaning into it! Learning to deal with the forks in the road and see them with eyes that take us forward faster, better and happier is SO important; and of equal measure so is learning to look at problems with completely different eyes that make us relentlessly solution focused and empowered!
YES, making the shift to leading forward in ways that perhaps at first seem counter-intuitive, and are largely so as our brains (no matter how positive we are) are automatically set to pick up negative clues and threats). Resetting the default pattern is in effect the coachable moment! And, the caveat is that every time we can consistently do so we are retraining our brain!
Yes, we are now facing a new realm of there is nothing we cannot do, and while it is reflected in incredible technological and scientic discoveries that would have been considered science fiction even a couple of years ago; the imperative to embrace new ways and learn new skills that can help us LEAD forward is real and it is critical!
And, lastly, Karlene, thank you again for your comments and sage reflections. So appreciated.
Very best, Irene
Courage! That about sums up what is needed to move forward. You have added a third dimension here Irene, as I have never defined the Spiritual Q, emotional and intelligence are the obvious ones we speak to. I love your call to action as it scares me enough, telling me it is why I need to dig deep for the courage to get on with it. Thanks for the post.
Hi Thabo: Thanks for your comments. Your are right, courage is what is needed now more than ever before. The third dimension SQ or spiritual quotient is to me the glue that holds our individual and collective spirit, courage and potential together. It is the conduit for our greatest intellectual and emotional triumph, it is the values alignment that drives and sustains all.
I think that there is not only courage but leadership in recognizing what creates fear and using this feeling to shift by using the SQ, that noble voice, those heartfelt values that when expressed take us forward faster and better than before.
Our ability to really live, lead and succeed to purpose starts with an awareness of the noblest of values that truly connect us individually and collecatively. Building our courage and strength from inside out sounds mystical perhaps, but it is very practical, purposeful…and, when properly guided can be used to really enhance the two other Qs-intellectual and emotional.
The time to dig deep to reap the rewards of our true potential is NOW!
Thank you again for your comment, Thabo!
Very insightful post Irene. As you have touched on the “Q Skills” (IQ), (EQ) & (SQ) my feeling is that SQ is the difference maker. Spirituality goes a long way although it’s the hardest to accept as most people find it easier to address their own needs istead of the needs of others. If we would only take time to Read, Study and Share Biblical insight, we would resolve much of the destructive issues we face today. True leadership is found in the “Good News” shared by believers, people find it hard to face the truth when it means giving up the things we desire (Philippians 2: 1-4).
I once memorized the book of Philippians. What I go to every single day of my life though is Philippians 4:8 whatever is true, whatever is noble, whatever is right, whatever is pure, whatever is lovely, whatever is admirable—if anything is excellent or praiseworthy—think about such things.
You have to go in search of these things and find the joy in every day. None of these will come find you.
If we simply pay attention to what makes news headlines we can easily get trapped into a feeling of doom and gloom and the world going to hell in a hand basket.
However, if we chose to focus elsewhere we can see many examples of courage, selflessness and heroic deeds and actions that motivate,sustain us and move us to a higher level. The only place we have control over is ourselves, becoming better people than we were yesterday and in turn providing those we have influence over with a better example, a truer path to follow.
I also believe that this is a critical time for people of courage to step forward and do what is right, rather what is convenient or easy at the moment.
What we need is more powerful calls of action like Jesse Lyn Stoner’s on a regular basis to keep us focused on what is possible and what we need to do to move us towards having the courage, conviction and doing the work that needs to be done to build better lives, communities and a better world.
Thanks for sharing this powerful article Irene!
Well-said! “This is a critical time for people of courage to step forward and do what is right, rather than what is convenient or easy at the moment.” Thanks for your insightful comments, Harvey. I’m delighted to host Irene Becker’s guest post. So glad you appreciated it.
There are so many excellent points made in this article, it would be futile to try to comment on how many of them I agree with. The content is very broad. This statement though answered a question for me. I had no idea why negativity is so natural for many people. “Our brains are automatically set to be attracted to the negative, a vestige of days when survival meant being on the lookout for predators at every turn.” I don’t tend to be negative and I know it’s because I was born positive. I think I understand better now.
….well from the first day I read your life story back in 2012 to now, your writings have resonated with me and encouraged me to take a bold step to make a move from United Kingdom to Saudi Arabia where I now work for the past 2.5 years.
you are truly gifted when it comes to reading the state of the world, our selfish attitude as human beings and our never ending egotistic control and destruction of human nature and the environment around us all. your thoughts really catches where we should all put our efforts to help the world be a better place for all. the world needs a rest, it needs a step back to re-think our impact on it and our needs to take and possess so much that we cannot even articulate ourselves. we fight for a purpose that are clearly selfish, we find and kill at will but cannot create that life, we take out of the earth what we don’t need but just pleases our eyes, we pour milk down drains while there are people who long for a sip, we store food in silos so we can keep the strong stronger, while the week starve to death. we treat family members, friends, work colleagues and strangers with hash words to protect what we think is our own. the world needs a rest my dear, and thank you for time you spent on this little junction, which I think you are still on the right path…..I am sure there are better still yet to come from you.
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