Manage Your Polarities or They Will Manage You

 

 

Do you ever hear a little voice in the back of your head saying things like: look before you leap … or … two wrongs don’t make a right … or … if it ain’t broke, don’t fix it?

We all have tapes running in the background that guide our actions. If you pay attention, you might notice you’re often listening to sayings you learned as a child.

Many of these sayings contradict each other, lying at opposite ends of a pole. The pole you listen to depends on the family and cultural values you learned and the temperament you were born with.

Haste makes waste. <–> He who hesitates is lost.

You can’t teach an old . . . → Read More: Manage Your Polarities or They Will Manage You

How to Set the Right Goals and Make Them Work for You

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Are you starting to lose focus on your goals? If so, you’re not alone. This is the time of year a lot of people lose their focus.

The problem is that annual goal-setting doesn’t work. You can’t plan an entire year and know in advance all the goals you will need to achieve. It’s likely that many of your goals are no longer motivating and many no longer make sense.

If goal-setting hasn’t been working for you, here’s how to set the right goals that will get you where you want to go:

1. Always keep your vision in mind while choosing goals.

The point of setting goals is to support you in moving toward your vision. Without a clear vision, your goals might not . . . → Read More: How to Set the Right Goals and Make Them Work for You

Confessions of a Closet Extrovert: We Need a Champion, Too

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Dear Introverts,

It’s nice that people are appreciating you so much more these days and showing how to build on your quiet strengths. But we extroverts are also often misunderstood, and we need a champion, too – someone who will stand up for us and challenge common misperceptions like these:

1. Ready, Fire, Aim

It’s not necessary to take everything we say literally. We think out loud, and we need to put the idea out there in order to look at it. Just because we say something doesn’t mean you should go do it. We get a bad rap for not thinking things through before we take action. OK. Maybe we do jump to action a little too quickly sometimes. But that doesn’t mean . . . → Read More: Confessions of a Closet Extrovert: We Need a Champion, Too

From Corporate Officer to Clown: Reinvent Yourself But Not Your Purpose

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The first female officer in the 150-year history of Stanley Black & Decker, Barbara Bennett was among the first women in a Fortune 500 company to break through the glass ceiling in 1989. Her direct style tempered by easy-going humor allowed her to fit quite well with the male-dominant culture. She used to joke that sometimes she would forget and follow the guys into the men’s room.

Convinced they needed to break down barriers, she was incredibly creative in finding ways to do it. For example, years before either of us had heard about “large group interventions,” Barbara asked me to help her plan a working meeting for their annual Managers’ Meeting, where they would make real business decisions. I had never done anything like . . . → Read More: From Corporate Officer to Clown: Reinvent Yourself But Not Your Purpose

3 Powerful Questions To Start and End Your Day

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Your questions determine the quality of your answers. They determine the quality of your day. A good question will get you a lot farther than a quick answer.

Powerful Morning Questions

Start your day with focus and energy by taking a few moments to answer these questions.

1. What will give me joy today?

2. What am I excited about accomplishing today?

3. Who needs my help today?

Powerful Evening Questions

Your day will take on greater meaning and will end on a better note if you take a few moments to answer these questions before you go to sleep.

1. What am I proud of?

2. Who do I love?

. . . → Read More: 3 Powerful Questions To Start and End Your Day

How to Change Someone Who Doesn't Want to Change

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Strong Leaders Ask For Help

Asking For Help When You Need It

If you are in a leadership role, chances are you believe it’s better to give than to receive.

Which means you also probably believe you should

… always be competent

… never make mistakes

… always be strong

and that you should only receive when you have something to give in return.

The problem with this attitude is that when you are in a situation where you don’t have a choice and must receive, you are likely to feel

… humiliated

… incompetent

… stupid

We hear “it’s better to give than to receive” but the truth is:

It’s easier to give than to receive, but not always better.

Giving when people can help themselves takes away their power and opportunity to grow, and . . . → Read More: Strong Leaders Ask For Help

Why Nobody Noticed You Changed and 5 Things You Can Do To Make Change Stick

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Did you ever get feedback that your behavior was having a negative impact on others? Perhaps you were told you’re too critical… or don’t listen enough… or are micro-managing your team… or even the other end – that you’re not involved enough?

Have you ever worked hard to change that behavior, perhaps even worked with a coach, but then got feedback that they still saw you as a frog… not the prince or princess you thought you had become?

If so, you’ve not alone. One of the most common reasons people revert to old behavior patterns is because of lack of appreciation of their efforts, lack of acknowledgement they’ve changed, and lack of support to continue acting differently.

No wonder “change doesn’t stick.”

Why . . . → Read More: Why Nobody Noticed You Changed and 5 Things You Can Do To Make Change Stick

Guidelines to Create a Compelling Vision

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A compelling vision helps you make choices about where to focus your energy. Without vision, you are in danger of trying to be all things to all people, scattered or adrift.

In our book, Full Steam Ahead! Unleash the Power of Vision, Ken Blanchard and I explain:

“Vision is knowing who you are, where you’re going, and what will guide the journey.”

Who you are is your purpose. Where you’re going is your picture of the future. What will guide your journey are your values.

Vision is about being great

A noble purpose is inspiring and helps you stay committed when times are hard.

A compelling vision is not about beating the competition or expressed simply in numbers. It’s about being the . . . → Read More: Guidelines to Create a Compelling Vision