How to Change Someone Who Doesn't Want to Change

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Strong Leaders Ask For Help

Asking For Help When You Need It

If you are in a leadership role, chances are you believe it’s better to give than to receive.

Which means you also probably believe you should

… always be competent

… never make mistakes

… always be strong

and that you should only receive when you have something to give in return.

The problem with this attitude is that when you are in a situation where you don’t have a choice and must receive, you are likely to feel

… humiliated

… incompetent

… stupid

We hear “it’s better to give than to receive” but the truth is:

It’s easier to give than to receive, but not always better.

Giving when people can help themselves takes away their power and opportunity to grow, and . . . → Read More: Strong Leaders Ask For Help

Why Nobody Noticed You Changed and 5 Things You Can Do To Make Change Stick

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Did you ever get feedback that your behavior was having a negative impact on others? Perhaps you were told you’re too critical… or don’t listen enough… or are micro-managing your team… or even the other end – that you’re not involved enough?

Have you ever worked hard to change that behavior, perhaps even worked with a coach, but then got feedback that they still saw you as a frog… not the prince or princess you thought you had become?

If so, you’ve not alone. One of the most common reasons people revert to old behavior patterns is because of lack of appreciation of their efforts, lack of acknowledgement they’ve changed, and lack of support to continue acting differently.

No wonder “change doesn’t stick.”

Why . . . → Read More: Why Nobody Noticed You Changed and 5 Things You Can Do To Make Change Stick

Guidelines to Create a Compelling Vision

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A compelling vision helps you make choices about where to focus your energy. Without vision, you are in danger of trying to be all things to all people, scattered or adrift.

In our book, Full Steam Ahead! Unleash the Power of Vision, Ken Blanchard and I explain:

“Vision is knowing who you are, where you’re going, and what will guide the journey.”

Who you are is your purpose. Where you’re going is your picture of the future. What will guide your journey are your values.

Vision is about being great

A noble purpose is inspiring and helps you stay committed when times are hard.

A compelling vision is not about beating the competition or expressed simply in numbers. It’s about being the . . . → Read More: Guidelines to Create a Compelling Vision

How to Maximize Your Energy When You Don't Have a Lot

Many of us find our energy dissipates at this time of year when the days are short and the nights are long.

Instead of trying to muscle your way through it, here’s how to maximize the energy you do have.

Even when your energy is lower than usual, there will be periods in the day when it is higher than others. It’s important to identify these times so you can plan for them.

How to Maximize Your Higher Energy Times Protect the time of day when you have the most energy. Use this time for the priorities that require your greatest mental acuity. Don’t schedule meetings or non-essential tasks during this time. Stop multi-tasking. Studies have repeatedly shown that when you multi-task, you have . . . → Read More: How to Maximize Your Energy When You Don’t Have a Lot

Strive for Greatness

 

 

The secret to greatness lies in the small actions we each take every day.

Although we won’t all be recognized by history, each of us is capable of achieving greatness through our everyday actions.

Most of the good in the world is built on the accumulated efforts of ordinary people doing small things in a great way.

 

7 Keys to Greatness

Be clear that your actions serve a higher purpose, and are not simply self-serving. Know what an excellent job looks like. Start with the end in mind. Make a full effort. Give it your full attention. Be willing to make mistakes; use them as learning opportunities. See it through to the end. Don’t settle for less than you are . . . → Read More: Strive For Greatness

Mindfulness in the Workplace Is More than Meditation

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In a recent Huffington Post article, Ford Motor Company chairman Bill Ford and former Google.org director Larry Brilliant are described as “business leaders who advocate mindfulness.” The article then goes on to list ten executives who meditate regularly. It’s easy to assume mindfulness and meditation are the same. No wonder there’s confusion.

With the increased interest in mindfulness in the workplace, many companies now offer classes in yoga, meditation, and stress reduction, and endorse activities such as spending 5 minutes each day doing nothing and taking time out for reflective reading.

These are all excellent activities, but they will not automatically create mindfulness.

Mindfulness is a way of being, not an activity.

Mindfulness is the practice of being fully present with the experience of . . . → Read More: Mindfulness in the Workplace Is More than Meditation

Stay Focused on Your Vision

"The path might not be clear, but stay focused on your vision and take the first step. The journey is as important as the destination." ~ Jesse Lyn Stoner

Stay focused on your vision and take the first step.

Tune In and Turn Off

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Technology gives us the opportunity to be “always on” and the illusion of increased productivity. The reality is that it’s not healthy, and over the long run you will be less productive.

Even understanding this, it can be hard to resist the pressure to quickly check email or whip off a quick response, especially if you believe your boss or customers will be unhappy if you don’t respond immediately.

To ensure your continued good health, productivity and positive relationships, confront your beliefs about being indispensable, negotiate new expectations around how quickly you need to respond, and make intentional decisions to create “off time.”

These 7 habits can help you turn off technology for a more tuned in life.

1. Stop multi-tasking. Many . . . → Read More: Tune In and Turn Off