The first female officer in the 150-year history of Stanley Black & Decker, Barbara Bennett was among the first women in a Fortune 500 company to break through the glass ceiling in 1989. Her direct style tempered by easy-going humor allowed her to fit quite well with the male-dominant culture. She used to joke that sometimes she would forget and follow the guys into the men’s room.
Convinced they needed to break down barriers, she was incredibly creative in finding ways to do it. For example, years before either of us had heard about “large group interventions,” Barbara asked me to help her plan a working meeting for their annual Managers’ Meeting, where they would make real business decisions. I had never done anything like that before but thought it was a great idea. The meeting was a smashing success and took down many walls. We appreciated and enjoyed each other, and over time became good friends.
In 1996, her boss Dick Ayers retired. The new CEO wanted to remake the culture, and Barbara decided to take an early retirement. Her package was so good she could afford a real retirement, and that’s what she did.
It was hard to imagine her retiring when only in her early 50’s. I wondered what she would do without a job to keep her focused and without a corporate identity to hang her hat on. The answer? Reinvent yourself!
Barbara entered the next phase of her life with the same enthusiasm that drove her to the top of the corporate world. Only this time, she focused on herself – her own personal development. She gave up the fancy titles, let her ego take a vacation, and her crisp business edge softened as she began meditating, studying healing and spirituality and volunteering regularly at hospice.
Then Barbara announced she was going to Clown School. Why? It looked like fun. She wasn’t sure what she would do with it. But, after graduating, she wove it into her life by visiting nursing homes and hospitals as a clown. She discovered that when she was in “clown face,” people would open up to her immediately and start taking about their deepest hopes and fears in ways they never would with an ordinary human volunteer. Clowns break down barriers!
Did Barbara change? On the surface, it looked that way. But the essence of her vision for her life has remained her driving force.
She continues to break down barriers and make a difference.
She still has a tremendous amount of power, which she now uses to help people discover joy and be present in whatever place they are.
She is still a role model, continuing to break through stereotypes and ceilings, going boldly where others have not gone before.
Barbara’s path has taken some unexpected turns. At times, she hasn’t been clear where the path is leading. However, she continues to focus on her purpose and trust herself to know that she doesn’t need to have it all figured out—eventually the connection will be revealed.
4 guidelines to reinvent yourself and stay aligned with your deepest purpose.
- Dig below the surface to reveal what you really care about.
- Give yourself permission to develop and keep growing. You make the world a better place when you develop yourself.
- Think big, act small. Take action in response to what is present while keeping the bigger picture in mind.
- Trust yourself and have faith, even when you don’t know where your path is taking you.
Photo Credit: Barbara Bennett | Reinvent Yourself But Not Your Purpose
The late Stephen Covey talked about a lot of great topics! One of them was his “Four Needs.” As I typically do, I Considered (http://johncbennettjr.com ) them and adapted them for my personal use AND in my facilitating learning with my students. As I have labeled them, we have learning, social, physical, and internal. Covey argued that all FOUR are important for anyone to be content. The first three are quite obvious I expect; the only reminder I passed on to the students was that “physical” includes financial needs. I also reminded the students that ALL are important. E.g., being in college, the learning need is obvious – but not at the expense of the others!!!
So what’s “Internal?” That’s our need to know how all the other needs are being met and what can be done to do a better job. Covey suggests addressing this need on a regular basis. I do it on Sunday mornings by myself but with a cup of coffee. In my case, I “reinvent” myself weekly; typically not big changes but small changes each week…
Thanks for your thoughts, John. I appreciate your raising the point that we can reinvent ourselves in small ways as well.
When I read this post, I just broke into a wide grin Sometimes, I have heard myself say to colleagues and clients, “I think I am on earth for comic relief.” In fact, just came from the eye doctor and my annual check-up. One of the new clerks had a name badge, “Iris”. Yes- her real name. I laughed and wanted to know if the nurse’s name was Retina?
In a hectic, pressure cooker of Harvard Eye Clinic, they all stopped and laughed,
That is one of the things I took from reading about Barbara. In her role as a senior leader, I believe that Barbara already had a sense of humor and did not hesitate to use it. When people can laugh at themselves or find bits of non-offensive humor, it makes them more approachable. Barbara obviously knows how to develop relationships and her ACT III as a clown just pulls upon that strength.
As always, Jesse, I love what you write. Thanks for sharing
Love the story of your gift of laughter. Humor and lightness brings hope to even the most serious situations. Thanks for sharing your wisdom, Eileen.
Hi Jesse,
I saw this post show up in my feed and could not get to it right away, I finaly got to it today. Thank you so much for sharing. I love that Barbara had the wisdom and the courage to avoid the box in everything she does. It is inspiring to see someone with great intelligence and skill choosing to serve with her whole heart.
Thank you for sharing!
So glad you enjoyed this, Chery. I used a real picture of Barbara. You’d be amazed to see her corporate picture next to it. Hard to believe they are the same person. But the essence is the same because as you said – she is serving with her whole heart.
Dear Jesse,
Love your post.
The core statement is: “Reinvent Yourself While Holding To Your Purpose”.
One’s purpose (mission, calling) might raisonnante in more than one way.
As to Barbara’s essence of her vision…
… continuing to break down barriers and make a difference IS (IMHO) her calling andnpurpose – not her vision.
For me, a vision is, simply said, a picture of the (personal/team/organizational/business) desired future, formulated in present tense.
The affinity (relations) between Mission/Purpose/Calling and Vision/Future Perfect is another (important) conversation.
Thanks, Yoram. You’re right, I did not specify what her vision is and should therefore not have used that word. I appreciate your pointing that out. Glad you enjoyed the story.